Anonymous asked: So... I've been questioning my gender identity for a while, and I'm kind of wondering. Can someone not have a gender? I'm physically female, and when I feel dysphoric I imagine my breasts vanishing and that helps. But trying to imagine having a penis makes it worse. Uh... I prefer masculine pronouns and a masculine name, but looking at gender as a spectrum from 10 [m] to -10 [f], I would put me close to zero. [gosh i hope that made sense.]
It makes sense, don’t worry :D
If we look at gender as a spectrum or a continuum, we realize that there are varying degrees of maleness and femaleness, and in the middle of that spectrum there are layers of androgyny that are present as well. Additionally, it is important to remember that some individuals toss the idea of a continuum out the window and instead recognize Third Gender notions that transcend the original binary. In my opinion, you can identify however you want. If it helps your dysphoria to imagine lacking a gender, then that helps your dysphoria and works for you. It doesn’t matter if other people says someone can and cannot have a gender, because other people aren’t you. Only you can decide how define yourself and how to perform gender (or lack thereof) identities.
If you prefer masculine pronouns and names, the only thing that defines those words as masculine is the society that you exist in, so they really have nothing to do with how you display and perform your own personal identity. Basically, if you like being called something, then you like being called something.
Always remember that no one has the right to tell you if you are identifying or not identifying with a certain gender “well,” because they aren’t you. At the end of the day, you have yourself, and you need to learn to love and accept yourself; if that means not identifying with a defined gender and using male pronouns, then that’s what works.
We are all individual and beautiful and you need to remember that :D
Anonymous asked: Hi, so I have one quick question, I'm a CisGendered Bisexual individual, and I'm a little confused about the etiquette of titles, is it acceptable to refer to myself as Queer, or is that co-opting the title? Sorry to bother, but internet definitions disagree about whether or not Bi falls under queer, and I don't want to be "that guy" so to speak.
Everyone has their own understanding of definitions, so I can’t give you a definite answer that will be accepted by everyone. But, because of that, it also means you can define yourself however you want. It is important, however, to not appropriate a group, but Queer has connotations (in my book) of being an overarching term that refers to individuals that do not identify with the predefined societal binary of male/female or that do not identify as straight. So, anyone that differs from this can identify as Queer.
You are never a bother, and it is important to remember to respect one another, but at the same time you deserve respect as well and individuals should respect how you personally identify.
Hope this helps, have a lovely day :D
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Celebrations outside the courthouse after it was announced that Prop 8 was ruled unconstitutional.